LIMITS

Everyone has their limits. Those limits are not realised until faced with monumental challenge. That’s when true limits are realised.

I’ve hit my limit.

As a direct result of a massive life change, I’ve been faced with a situation. It’s very real, leaving someone very close deeply, deeply troubled. I have navigated this person in every single way possible. I’ve exhausted all tools and have hit my limit. With nothing left, I’m empty, flat, exasperated, frustrated and unable to deal with it anymore. I need boundaries, change and most of all a handover to the person that’s responsible for this. I’ve expired, entirely. It’s not my energy to give now.

Back to anchors, I’m off course. My anchors: authenticity, balance. My authentic self tells me things are askew. Excessive energy expended in the wrong directions. Balance is required. Others have to take responsibility for their own thoughts and actions. It’s not on me. But this person will always need me, and I will always be there.

There does come a point, and it creeps up, when there’s the realisation that it’s gone too far, limits are now behind you, in your wake. At the expense of yourself, you’ve run yourself down. Almost at the point of no return. Return, Quickly. Don’t just return to the start point, go further, there needs to be a buffer, boundaries, not to tower over you, but hold you firm. Get back to that.

Negative zero energy equals negative zero you. Identify limits ahead of you before they are behind. Boundaries.

AVOIDANCE

There’s a cost to avoidance. A fallout. Although it may provide temporary relief, in the long term it creates carnage.

When ignoring, avoiding and disrespecting your own personal values and anchors, you’re in a storm, swept out to sea, vulnerable. Some people never find their way back, set out on a path of self destruction. Avoidance can manifest itself into a cluster fuck of epic proportions, a big knarly tangled mess. 

That’s extreme. The extreme end of the scale. Avoidance is normal, to not want to confront things that are uncomfortable or foreign. But isn’t that where growth lies? Something that makes you want to run, could be the one thing that you really need. Turn around and give it your time, assess it, walk toward it, contemplate and work with the gifts being shown to you. Then if necessary, walk away for a while, but come back, come back and address it. That’s if it’s worth your time and energy.

Avoiding intuition is difficult as your gut knows, and so does your soul. At the heart of intuition, there’s truth, a crystal clear truth. It’s still a choice whether to see crystal clear or sea fog, to stay anchored or drift out to sea. 

Avoidance can be a show of weakness, a weakness of character. It can also be a sign of arrogance, to rise above and choose to ignore that which is not worthy. It can be a temporary state, a process, to avoid, take time, then come back in a strong position. Strong does not mean cold, but with an open heart, a willingness and desire to communicate.

Avoidance is escapism, hiding out, not communicating, internalising. With silence, comes pain. Avoidance is losing your voice swallowing your speech, running. Avoid long-term and it will chip away, piece by piece at your values, setting you off course, away from the anchor, out to sea. 

Avoidance will cost you - it will cost you your truth.